Happy New Year, y’all! It has been a while since I posted anything new here on the blog, but I promise I’ll start posting more regularly in the coming weeks. The last quarter of 2019 was really busy with the holidays and some big changes at work, and I didn’t have much spare time. But, since it’s a new year, I wanted to share my “Words of the Year” with y’all today, January 1st, 2020, so here they are:
My 2020 Words of the Year: Balance & Grace.
In 2020, I want to have more balance in every aspect of my life. Last year, I spent so much time trying to cross items off my to-do list that I almost always felt a little overwhelmed and never felt like I could catch up. I set too many big goals for myself. I overcommitted myself frequently. I pushed myself to write harder and faster. I wanted to start my own editing service. I tried to run two Instagram accounts. All of this while working a full-time job and being a wife and dog-mom.
By October, I was burned out, and I struggled to find motivation and inspiration. I spent so much time looking at what others were accomplishing and trying to do the same without acknowledging that every person has different demands on his or her time. I can’t write as many novels as someone who doesn’t work a 9-5 and dedicates her time solely to writing. I can’t write a lot of new blog posts if I’m also pushing myself to work on a new book. I can’t come home after work every night and work on some other project. I need some downtime every now and then. I felt like I was constantly sliding backwards down a slippery slope, and it was so frustrating.
So, in 2020, I’m not setting as many big goals for myself. I plan to publish AT LEAST one book and hopefully get close to publishing another one after that, but if I only publish one in 2020, that’s okay. One day, I hope to leave the corporate life and pursue writing/blogging full-time, but until then, I have to find a balance between work and writing. I want to give myself more Saturdays to sleep in and binge watch Netflix shows. If I want to sit and read a book for an entire day during the weekend, I don’t want to feel as if I should be doing a dozen other things instead. I really want to find a better balance between “work and play” in 2020.
Grace is a gift I’m giving myself in 2020. I spent way too much time beating myself up because I didn’t accomplish goals X, Y, & Z last year. Instead of celebrating what I was accomplishing, I focused on areas where I fell short. This year, I’m not going to beat myself up when I “can’t do it all” because there is no way I can “do it all”. (By “all” I mean work full time, be a good wife, write lots of books in short periods of time, blog/Instagram, read books, watch shows on Netflix, etc.) I need to find balance and then give myself grace if I don’t achieve my goals. I want to feel joy when it comes to my passion projects—not pressure.
I’m excited about what 2020 holds, and I really want to implement these words in my life in the coming year(s). I learned a lot in 2019, specifically about what I don’t want to do going forward, and I am excited to report back 366 days from now and let you know how it goes!
Do you have a Word of the Year for 2020? Have you made any resolutions? Let me know in the comments below!
Happy Roaring 20s!